Over the years, we have received emails asking
for help from people that have pubic lice. We thought we would include here some advice for anyone who's main problem
right now is not head lice, but pubic lice.
The issues for people infested with lice in the sexual regions of their bodies are perhaps far more emotionally
difficult, yet the lice themselves are relatively easier to clear.
We have summarised many emails received to generate the following 2 emails to us and our replies. They form a basis
on which you can answer your own questions, deal with the issues, and beat the problem without fear and worry.
|Email 1 (Infidelity and Pubic Lice)
Dear Larry & Vanessa
I seem to have pubic lice. I have a single partner who I have been sleeping with and she/he promises me they have
not slept with anyone else. I certainly have not been unfaithful but my partner insists they have been true and
are angry with me about this. Could my partner or I have caught pubic lice any other way? For example, I go to
a gym regularly and maybe picked up the lice from someone else's towel. Please help, I don't know where else to
Thanks for writing to us. It is highly unlikely you or your partner became infested
with pubic lice except by physical contact with someone already infested, but before either of you start accusing the other of unfaithfulness, it's important you understand and
consider the following.
1) Having lice in the pubic region does not constitute evidence of infidelity. You may have body lice (often commonly
called 'clothes lice') which can be caught from other peoples clothes and garments. Doctors (busy people) might
often jump to the conclusion of diagnosing pubic lice when in fact they are another form of human lice. It is quite
difficult to tell the three types of lice apart without the aid of a microscope. I have never seen a microscope
in a Doctors surgery. Have you?
2) Instead of concentrating on the issue of who gave the lice to whom and wanting to prove one or you might have
slept with someone else, it is probably far more important you both focus on getting rid of them and repairing
your relationship before greater damage is done. Most drugstores prescribe over-the-counter remedies which are
effective, however - should you be embarrassed or feel awkward about purchasing such products, most of the shampoos
used to eradicate hair-lice will kill pubic lice too. Be careful not to get any of the insecticide shampoos in
contact with the more sensitive areas of the genitals and be extra careful to prevent any of the liquid being absorbed
internally through accidental contact with the vaginal walls, the rectum, or the opening
to the penis.
I do hope this helps and that you take our advice and get on with your relationship instead of damaging it through
Vanessa & Larry
|Email 2 (Guilt and Pubic Lice)
I am so upset and scared I don't know what to do. I am an 18 year old college student with very strict parents.
I recently had a relationship with someone and had sex for the first time in my life.We took precautions against
sexual diseases and getting pregnant but I now have crabs. I only discovered this after finding tiny crawling things
in my pubic hair and looked through library books to understand what they were. I feel so dirty and ashamed. I
share a dorm with other girls and we have a common shower area. I am terrified of them or my parent finding out.
Please, please help me... I think I am having a breakdown over this. The guy I slept with has since moved away
and I am no longer in contact with him. I have no one to tell about this but thought I would try you.
I am so very pleased you wrote to us. It is terrible to have something on your mind driving you into emotional
trauma. First of all, so you slept with someone for the first time. Good! Its what humans do... quite natural...
and all part of experiencing life. You took the right precautions and I really don't think you should feel guilty
or ashamed. Sex is a positive thing not a negative one. It is one of the beautiful gifts we have to share in our
Pubic Lice love clean people more than they love dirty ones. It is just unfortunate that you contracted them on
your first experience. So lets look on the positive side first. You are not pregnant and you have no disease. You
have a few creepy crawlies to contend with until you get rid of them which is quite easy to do! They are not going
to do you any harm in the meantime, although it's not very pleasant knowing they are there.
Most drugstores prescribe over-the-counter remedies which are effective, however - should you be embarrassed or
feel awkward about purchasing such products, most of the shampoos used to eradicate hair-lice will kill pubic lice
too. Be careful not to get any of the insecticide shampoos in contact with the more sensitive areas of the genitals
and be extra careful to prevent any of the liquid being absorbed internally through accidental contact with the
vaginal walls or the rectum.
Take a shower alone when everyone else is busy. They will not know and they don't need to know about your little
guests. You have told me now so no need to tell anyone else but if you have a close friend you trust, you may like
to share the information with her to help you through the worry of this for a while. You really have no need to
worry. You have done nothing wrong at all and these things happen sometimes. You seem bright and intelligent so
why not use your reasoning to combat the overwhelming negative emotional feelings.
It's a shame that so many enjoyable and nice things we do as people are in some way used to make us feel that pleasure
is at a price. It's not. It is our human right to have warm, exciting, and shared experiences with other human-beings.
We should be careful to minimize the risk of unwanted pregnancies and to avoid passing diseases to each other,
which you did well to think about and acted responsible and mature about. Well done!
Pubic Lice are not a disease but a somewhat occasional nuisance, so just get rid of them as suggested and get on
with living your life and stop worrying yourself to death. Maybe you should read one of our stories and see how
lice affected us then you might see that you are not alone. Loads of people all over the world are probably experiencing
what you are going through right now, so you are not alone. We love you, with or without lice so make sure you
also love yourself for being a sensitive and warm human-being.
our warm and sincere regards,